“Once a man sets his heart on such a relationship (a healthy, tender, passionate, enduring, mutually satisfying relationship with one woman), the same male energy that once was casting about looking for mere copulation becomes a drive to woo and win, to care for and endure, and to provide and protect a woman and the children they have together.”
John Ensor – Doing Things Right in Matters of the Heart
“There has to be laid in a relationship like marriage a foundation on which both of you are standing when you begin to get in each others face with desires for change. Because if a foundation of absolute, rock solid, gracious commitment to forgive and forebear isn’t there first the efforts to bring about change will start to sound like ultimatums, not service. There has to be a gospel foundation that says “I’m committed to you no matter what. So that when I ask this to change, I’m not saying ‘change or I’m out of here.’”…That’s what the vows are about.
John Piper - Marriage: Pursuing Conformity to Christ in the Covenant (